I was laid off. 9/11 happened, I ended a relationship. I was 28 or 29. And I realised that I wasn’t having success, a lot of my other friends in their 20s were achieving success. I don’t mean big success, but just traction in their job. They were moving up being promoted. And I was not and this was before I had realised I had ADHD. But I was really struggling to make it as in any career. And now I was approaching 30, and I really had to do some self analysis.
The feeling of being forced out of a career you love can cause a rush of emotions, as your identity is embedded in what you do. A career for many is not just a job, but it can be a daily routine, self-esteem and self-confidence, professional identity or a feeling of control over your life.
A Carmelite embraces cloistered life to support and safeguard the life of prayer to which she feels called. You need to know that there is a purpose in what you are doing. As Victor Frankl writes, in Man’s Search for Meaning: “Those who have a why to live, can bear with almost any how”.
Sometimes we know we ‘should’ change, but resist because we don’t want to. Usually, the biggest part of your life, your career, is the place where you feel most apprehension about taking leaps of faith and yet it’s where change can be needed most.